What change is that I am speaking of? The moment we realize, whether a man or a woman, that we do not need anyone else in our life to be financially successful and stable. Although, I will admit, I may be speaking a bit more to women than men right now. But, I also know there are plenty of men in this boat as well.
A Personal Note
I feel the need to get really personal today. Why? Because I have a very unique story of overcoming. Because I was that woman that subconsciously believed that I needed a man to have financial abundance in my life. Because I am a woman that, professionally speaking, looks for patterns and analyzes them. Once I did that with my own life, I had this magical realization that I was the stability in my life, not the men I was attracting.
As I mentioned last week in my blog post, as a society, we are built on a foundation that has led us to believe that as women, we cannot find financial stability without a man. I am not blaming society, as I actually do understand that back in primordial times, it really was a matter of science and safety. Men hunted and women took care of the home front, purely for safety reasons.
However, as time has progressed and society has changed, women have come a really long way with regard to being able to provide without a man in their lives. For me, especially. I look back on my life and can see now that every time I had a man in my life, I was struggling financially. Every time I have been single, I have flourished financially.
Why is this?
My Realization
I am the stable one. There was this illusion that plagued me for so many years. Sometimes I wonder if it has plagued me through lifetimes. This belief that the man was the breadwinner in a family. The fact that a woman could not do it on her own, at least that is how society has portrayed it. Yes, there are “success stories” out there of women who have done it on their own. But, how many people have sold out and married someone just for the financial stability that they were seeking?
It was a moment I will never forget. The moment that, all of a sudden, the pattern showed itself to me so clearly.
Death and Rebirth
Once I saw the pattern, I couldn’t “unsee” it. As soon as I saw it, a part of me died. The part of me that believed that I needed a man in my life in order to be financially stable.
I look back at my life, and I can see that I truly have raised three boys on my own with very little child support from their father. I can see that the Universe conspired to show me that that belief pattern was false.
The fact of the matter is, if this is true for me, it is true for every person out there. Yes, there is a theory that two is greater than one. However, in my case, each time I tried to be in a partnership, they, energetically speaking, were not even remotely close to me in so many ways, that it pulled my energy and finances down.
Now, I will not allow anyone into my life unless they add to my energy, not detract from it.
Take a look at your life. Create the change in your life that you want to see all around you. Create your own financial stability. Stop looking outside of yourself for that which you can provide to yourself.
Once you shift that perspective, I promise you, you will have the whole world sitting right in the palm of your hands.
